Detach from the outcome

Think about a time when you're meeting someone new. The other person shares her name, and you say, "My name is ______." That's a piece of information you're sharing, and nothing more. Unless you have a truly horrid name that everyone makes fun of, chances are you have absolutely no thought about what the other person is thinking about your name. It's simply not a concern for you, and there's no energy around whether the person likes it, or doesn't. It probably doesn't even occur to you to think about it, but more, even if it did occur to you, you really wouldn't care what the person thought. You'd be utterly detached from the outcome.

Bit O’Moxie: Develop that sort of thinking, and that way of being about the pieces that make up your practice. Your fees, your standards—every bit of it. When someone asks about your business, share information with the same carefree way you share your name when asked.

When you're able to state what is without being attached to what comes of it, you'll experience a level of success you didn't know was possible.

Comments

[Gloria Luzier]

Stacy --

What a tremendously freeing perspective you've shared! How true it is! Now, of course, putting it into practice ... well, it's a good challenge for me. I've learned the concept, "I'm not responsible for the feelings of others," but I especially like what you've shared today. Thank you! :)

[Jessica]

Hi Stacy.

I was recently put in this situation and did just as you have suggested in your post.

I was speaking with a potential client and he asked about my rates. When I told him what they were he said that he was currently paying $15.00 less per hour to other people that are working with him and asked why I charged so much. I very briefly explained to him that my rate is what it is because I'm worth it. I've had training through AssistU (the best!), I have years of experience and I know that I do a good job. He said that's all the explanation he needed and after working together for a few days he told me how great it is working with me.

That was empowering!!! And I am so happy to be at the point in my business and have confidence in myself and services that I know this and don't have to blink an eye and reconsider my fees when someone thinks they're too high.

[Stacy]

Gloria -- it's so great when you let go of the outcome, knowing that whatever happens is perfect, *and* when that outcome is what you would have wanted if you'd been attached to what happened ;>

S