Reserves: Having more than you need in a variety of areas, like love, time, space, money, community, and wellness.
I first learned about reserves when I was a coaching student at Coach U. At that time, there were about ten areas that had been recognized as those in which people needed to have reserves. Over the years, I've come to believe that we need reserves in many more areas than those ten; in my view, any aspect of life where you can run out of something is an area in which a reserve ought to be developed.
The question I'm most often asked is, "How do I create a reserve when I only have enough to get by?" A great question, that. There are a few ways, depending on what area we're talking about, but one way that works for everything is this: reduce your need for whatever it is, and what's left over is the reserve.
So, for instance, if you wanted to develop a reserve of money, you would find ways to simplify your life, reduce the amount of money you need and currently spend, and what's left over automagically becomes a reserve.
In practical terms, you'd sit down and make a list of everything you currently spend money on. Then, you'd go through the list, making the often difficult decision to do away with certain expenditures—maybe you choose to not have cable TV at all, or get rid of DVR service and premium channels (personal), or you cut back on any number of business expenses that are nice to have but not necessary (business), for instance. The money you now no longer need to spend becomes a reserve. Put it away in savings and watch it grow.
As it does, and as you come to realize that the fear of not having enough money is waning, notice how much more at choice you become. You're likely to notice that you say yes to things more quickly and with far less worry. There will be more joy and less anxiousness. You may not even know why—until you realize that it's at least in big part because you're no longer afraid, and that's because you have more than enough of what you need.
This method for creating a reserve works in any area in which you need to create one.
Again, when it comes to doing this work, it's simple, but rarely easy. What I can tell you without a doubt in my mind is that it's absolutely worth doing because it's only when you have a reserve that you can be at choice. Until you have reserves and can be at choice, everything about your life decisions will always be bound by the fact that you always have either just enough, or too little. At choice, all your life decisions will be bound by what brings you joy and feels great to you. And my want for you is that you get to live your life experiencing that. :)